Ok, reading back to the last post from a couple of hours ago, things were pretty drivel-ish. I’m not fond, nor prone to ‘drivel’ and so I had to spend some more time with me – thinking and perhaps even stomping down that inner gremlin.
I decided that since I subscribed to Andrea Owen’s daily email KickAss Life Coaching series that I would go ahead and be ‘coached’ here. I’m not going to address each daily email here but the ones that feel pertinent to my ‘predicament’ – I will.
What do you want? What do you really, really want?
- I want to be healthy
- I want to have many friends
- I want to have opportunities to use my intellect outside of a work environment
- I want to be able to be trusted
- I want a level of excitement in my life – something to feel passionate about
- I want to not have to work until I’m 65 – or, to be somehow earning money without feeling like I’m working.
In my Un-Lived life, the one that I see in my mind, I am living in the country, in a cottage perhaps, and I have a sense that I spend time doing ‘artist’ type things, writing, drawing, creating. I’m calm and peaceful.
It’s like a snapshot though, It’s not a concrete plan or something to work towards because I don’t know what else it is.
You can’t tell about someone’s life from a picture – an image frozen in time… The next scene could be someone coming and starting a big argument or getting into a car and driving in traffic to an office or putting an open sign on a roadside stand or a dinosaur coming along and crushing the cottage or aliens beaming me up to the spaceship – see – my snapshot of my Un-Lived life is meaningless when it comes down to it.
Inner Gremlins? Perhaps.
Let’s go back to Dean Dwyer and Making Shift Happen.
Pick something small, or not even small – but 1 thing to change and make that work before starting the next thing.
When I first heard that I thought wow – amazing insight. Still is amazing insight. He said that very often people get all gung ho about a new diet plan, lifestyle change, exercise plan breaking a habit or whatever and they try to take on the world in a single leap (I am paraphrasing here) and end up failing because you just can’t change everything all at once.
That all made perfect sense to me when I heard it the first time, and when I paraphrased it the first and second and all the subsequent times I that I repeated it yet here I am, frustrated because things aren’t moving quickly enough – I haven’t changed enough…
Man – I’ve hardly ‘changed’ anything. Mostly what I’ve done is talk about changing, think about changing and the things I have put on my list…. well, I haven’t failed, but not exactly a roaring success either.
So, what have I concluded from this little episode of verbal/mental diarrhoea? Slow down.
This is not an overnight project.
Stick to the plan. Start with being healthy. Why?
Because when I become more healthy and fit, I will have more energy, feel better about myself and my outlook on life may change. The mental fog I find myself in all too frequently may lift and I may be able to see that un-lived life a little more clearly – the direction may become more apparent and actually, when it comes down to it, in my un-lived life, I am healthier, fitter, stronger.
I feel better now. I think I’ve connected some of the dots.